I grew up in that weird, remote part of the United States that they call the “Bible Belt.” Then a few years ago, I moved to Berlin. Probably one of the most sexually open cities in the world. In Berlin I have been forced to confront a lot of the ideas that I had about sex. Some that I knew I had, some that I let stay hidden in the back of my brain where they were happy and safe.
After years of work, I’m still getting over some of the messed up ideas about sexuality that I grew up with. For most of my life, I have felt like my sexuality and the way that I expressed it was wrong and that other people, particularly my future partners, would not accept me unless I changed this aspect of myself.
In recent years, I realized a lot of people have similar feelings, even if the source of their shame comes from a different place. Because we don’t openly talk about our early sexual experiences, or our sexual experiences in general, many people think their exploration makes them dirty or perverted or maybe just weird.
Once you just ask, you see that most of us have done a lot of the same things though and there is no reason to be ashamed.
I hope you enjoy these stories and they make you think a little bit differently about your own sexuality.